Too Much Of A Thing
It’s strange, but most of the mistakes one can make in a relationship are a result of trying to do something good.
When your efforts to do everything well reach an excessive level, they can come between you and your partner and harm your relationship.
This post will help you understand what you should strive for and what you should avoid when trying to present yourself from the best side.
- It’s GOOD: When his friends like you and accept you as an equal, not only as their friend’s girlfriend.
- NOT that GOOD: When you become the soul of his company. He can feel uncomfortable if you start meeting his friends even more often than he does, and if they have more fun with you than with him. Men are more keen on keeping their friends and are more difficult on getting new ones, so they try to keep their friend-circle more or less closed.
- GOOD: If his mom likes you. He will never doubt in taking you to his family gatherings, and this will ease your joint life in future.
- NOT GOOD: If you’re best friends with his mom. Moms usually reproach their sons for doing something wrong in their life and he might not bear that you share his mom’s point of view.
- GOOD: If you are able to show weakness. He will appreciate if, after having a bad day, you share with him and he supports you, making you realize that he takes care of you.
- NOT GOOD: If you are being weak too often. If you are depressed and stop taking care of yourself, walking around wearing clothes similar to maternity pajamas. He will get tired of all that and realize you’re not the woman he can cope with, because it’s too much for him.
- GOOD: If you don’t mind his shortcomings. If he understands that you love him the way he is, he will start working on himself in order to get better.
- NOT GOOD: If you take his shortcomings for granted. He may think that you just don’t care.
- GOOD: If you are honest with him.
- NOT GOOD: If you are too honest. When he asks you after sex if he is better than your previous partners, he might not tolerate the honest answer in case he’s not.
- GOOD: If together you are one. A deeply honest and loving relationship is a truly valuable thing.
- NOT GOOD: If you do every single thing together; you don’t find time for yourself and do not let him breath freely either. Both you and him need some personal space and time. Otherwise you can simply get bored of each other. A night out with your friends and without him will only do your relationship good.
These situations are too general, and they, of course, don’t coincide with the mentality of all men, since their characters differ. But if you follow these examples, you can understand what is better for you as a couple and try to balance between what you should do and what you’d better avoid doing.
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