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The only criterion of a serious relationship has been its duration. But the degree of closeness is not always dependent on the number of years you’ve been together. You could be dating for only a couple of months, but the psychological age of your relationship can grow with blazing speed.

Most short lasting relationships end at about 6-7 months, so if you’re at that point, I bet you have already thought about what will come out of your relationship.

Read the list below and if you match with all of the following points, then your relationship is older than you thought and you can bravely move forward with it.

• You live together and successfully accomplish the duties of a moved-in couple. You are able to share the responsibilities and everyday happenstances in life, while your partner does not interfere with you leading your own personal life. It’s important that you don’t annoy each other. For example, when one of you stays in the bathroom a little bit longer than necessary, or if your shoes are lying around all over the apartment.

• If you moved in together just because you’ve done with all your previous partners. Depending on your age, if you lived with someone once or twice before, that’s even better for the current relationship, but if living together is taken as granted, you may not be in a good situation.

• If you don’t bore each other. When staying home the whole day, most couples watch TV or each one entertains himself/herself. It is of course important that you are able to do your stuff, but in the ideal case the couple has to be able to organize something together in their leisure time. Or the best is when you are just able to talk about the stupid movie you watched or discuss how to paint the room. It doesn’t matter, you just have to manage things together.

• If you are able to come out of an argument peacefully without there being a “victim.” Refusing to talk to each other, locking yourself in your room or shouting must be calmly replaced by a calm conversation during which you discuss all your problems to come to a mutual understanding and compromise.

• If you don’t interrupt each other during a conversation.

• If you are in good relations with your partner’s family and meet them comparatively often.

• If you spend most evenings together, but not every single one! You have to be able to find time for yourself and let each other lead his/her personal life, keep friends, go out and taken a break from your partner.

• If your sex life is still relatively strong.

• If you find each other attractive as you did before.

• If you have one or two common hobbies.

• If you are moderately jealous of your partner. But remember, no jealousy can mean that you have lost interest in your partner. Too much jealousy can lead to disaster.

• If you’re sure you’ll be together in a year…

So, if you said yes to all what I have mentioned, the psychological age of your relationship is 1.5-2 years old. You are both constructive, you manage to solve all the problems occurring between you and your love is so harmonious that your relationship’s long-term success is really promising.

Photo© Ian Sane

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